The internet has slammed a woman for asking for a photo of her grandchild without including the baby’s half-brother as they “do not classify him as a grandchild”.
Statistics show that 40 percent of married couples with children in the US are stepcouples, meaning at least one partner has a child from a previous relationship.
Similarly, an estimated 113.6 million Americans are in some form of step-relationship.
In the controversial post on popular talk site Mumsnet, user Sar69 explained her story, writing: “Why do I feel so guilty? My husband will soon be 50 and for a nice idea of all his grandkids I asked the parents to send pictures of the grandkids to have a drawn picture of them all together.”
The grandmother explained that her stepdaughter had just had a baby and has been in her life for 18 years. “I love her to pieces,” she wrote. “She was with [her] Partner for two years and he has a son from a previous relationship. We’ve only seen him a couple of times in that time, so we really don’t have a connection with him.”
There was a problem when the grandmother asked for a picture of her new 8 week old grandchild, but the stepdaughter sent a picture of both the new baby and his big brother.
“We don’t leave him out for Christmas, Easter or birthdays,” explained the Mumsnet user. “We always shop for him as he’s a part of my stepdaughter’s life, but we don’t classify him as a grandchild.”
Despite the fact that her stepdaughter had sent some pictures of the baby alone, the addition of a picture of the brother left the woman at a loss. “I didn’t mean to upset her, but I had to say we just wanted a picture of the baby,” she explained, before asking, “Am I unreasonable to tell her that or should we have added him?” even though he has nothing to do with us?”
But in response, Mumsnet users were quick to criticize the woman for excluding the other child.
One commenter said: ‘Get him involved. what is the damage Think how hurt your stepdaughter and partner will be when they see that is on the wall and the son is locked out.”
“Why do you risk hurting your stepdaughter and her family?” said another commenter. “Just add him.”
Another Mumsnet user said: “Open your heart. Include that little boy in the picture.”
“You don’t have to love him like a grandchild or even see him as a grandchild, but it doesn’t seem right to exclude him from that,” reads another reply. “It won’t hurt you and it would be a nice touch for your stepdaughter and her partner.”
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