Members of a popular internet forum were disgusted after a woman shared her reaction to her sister’s surprise pregnancy announcement.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/throwawayaita_132 (aka Original Poster or OP) detailed her own struggles with having children and revealed how her previous experiences affected her feelings about studying her sister influenced expected.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] for my reaction when my sister told me she was pregnant?” The post received almost 6,500 upvotes and 4,000 comments in the last day.
“Me (27F) and my husband Will … have been married 3 years,” OP began. “We’ve been trying to have a baby almost the whole time… with no results.”
The original poster went on to explain that she miscarried last year and said it had been difficult to move forward, but expressed her gratitude for her supportive family.
The original poster also featured her “nice and kind” older sister named Jane, but noted that Jane never wanted children and has long prioritized her career and social life over motherhood.
That is, until recently.
“I met Jane for lunch a few days ago…[where] She then dropped the tidbit that she was 5 months old,” the OP wrote. “I was shocked, mostly because I didn’t know she was in a serious relationship and she never mentioned being pregnant.
“She said she slept a couple of times with a guy she met at a club,” OP continued. “It kind of felt like a punch in the pit of my stomach that me and my husband have been trying for a baby for so long and my sister has … one that’s whoring around.
“I thought she said she didn’t want children, but Jane said she feels ‘different’ now and having this baby is a ‘blessing,’” OP added. “I was kind of fed up with that, so I told her that she knows a lot about mine and Will’s struggles and she’s acting like she’s playing with some happy families [random man’s] Infant.”
Discussions about the desire to have children and other pregnancy-related issues can be challenging for many and require a high level of sensitivity and thoughtfulness from everyone involved.
Over the past decade, numerous parenting and lifestyle websites have published guides on how to talk to expectant mothers about their pregnancy.
These guides tend to be chock-full of “dos” and “don’ts,” covering common questions and comments for pregnant women, encouraging readers to play it safe to ensure no boundaries are crossed.
But not all conversations are that easy, especially when family tensions come into play.
Lately, news week has reported on Reddit threads detailing discussions of multiple pregnancies gone wrong due to jealous, abusive, and insensitive family members.
In one thread, a mother-to-be expressed desperation after her brother cut short her pregnancy announcement by lamenting that his brother-in-law “pretends” to “beat up” his sister, and in another particularly bizarre case, a group of siblings claimed their sister experienced “Schrodinger’s pregnancy” after lying about being pregnant on numerous occasions.
In both cases – and in most cases like it – commenters gutted family members so willing to joke or speak cruelly about pregnancy, and in the case of the viral post published by the original poster, the reaction was largely the same .
“[You’re the a**hole]” wrote Redditor u/StAlvis in the top comment of the post, which received almost 28,000 upvotes. “You’re a jealous, self-centered sister. And it’s a terrible look.”
“You act like Jane did that to annoy you,” added Redditor u/Nuttonbutton, receiving more than 3,000 upvotes. “If she says she doesn’t feel supported, I can understand why. You have completely failed her.”
Redditor u/SuddenWhole, along with many others, shifted focus to the specific slang the original poster used to describe her sister’s pregnancy.
“‘Joking around?’” they asked, receiving more than 10,000 upvotes. “What’s that, the 1950s? You’re jealous, we get it.”
“[You’re the a**hole] for… using the phrase ‘whore around’,” Redditor echoed u/penguin_squeak, receiving nearly 7,000 upvotes.
“Your whole post sounds like resentment towards your sister,” chipped in Redditor u/EwokCafe.
news week asked u/throwawayaita_132 for a comment.
https://www.newsweek.com/womans-brutal-reaction-sisters-pregnancy-slammed-shocking-1736321 Woman’s brutal reaction to sister’s pregnancy: ‘Shocking’